How Trusting the Process Will Give You Success
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We all have desires—goals we long to reach, dreams we hope to fulfill, and prayers we keep lifting to God. But let’s be honest: sometimes those desires feel impossibly far away. It can feel like you’re stuck, defeated, let down, or ready to give up.
But here’s the truth: trusting the process—especially God’s process—is the very thing that leads to real success.
What Is the Process?
A process is “a series of actions taken in order to achieve a result.” It’s not a one-time event or a quick fix. It’s a journey—often uncomfortable, stretching, and filled with waiting. But it’s through the process that transformation happens.
Think about it: if you’re praying for something like financial increase, but can’t yet steward what you already have—why would God entrust you with more? The process is where you learn the skills, gain the mindset, and build the character necessary to carry the weight of the blessing you’re asking for.
Why Do We Even Need a Process?
Picture this: you’re standing in front of a locked door. You know without a doubt it’s the right door—marriage, business, family, healing, purpose—but you don’t have the key. You could try to kick the door down in frustration. Or, you could wait on God, who holds the key and knows exactly when you’re ready.
When we try to force open doors in our own timing, we end up with broken situations and wounded hearts. But when we trust God’s process, we find that His timing comes with peace, purpose, and protection. Ecclesiastes 3 reminds us that everything has a season, and that includes the waiting, the growing, and the healing.
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My Story: Waiting for Marriage
I used to believe I’d meet my husband in college, get married shortly after, and start building our life together. But reality looked very different. I stayed single throughout college and, honestly, only got asked on a date about once a year.
It wasn’t until I was 35 that I began dating the man I would eventually marry. I spent years struggling with loneliness, comparison, and questioning if God had forgotten me. But what I didn’t know then was that I was in a season of becoming—not just waiting.
In one particularly honest prayer, I cried out to God, asking why I hadn’t met my husband yet. And I felt the Lord gently ask me: “Would the man you desire even choose you right now?” It was hard to hear, but I knew it was true. I was broken, insecure, and unsure of who I really was. That question was a wake-up call.
It was then that I surrendered and asked God to take me through the process of healing and restoration—because I no longer wanted to settle. I wanted to be the kind of woman who could walk confidently into a healthy marriage, and I couldn’t get there on my own.
What It Looks Like to Trust the Process
Trusting the process meant letting God peel back the layers of who I thought I had to be and showing me who He created me to be. It meant confronting the pain, embracing my worth, and discovering my true identity in Him.
One scripture that anchored me during this season was Job 23:10:
“But He knows the way that I take; when He has tried me, I shall come forth as gold.” (NKJV)
This wasn’t a fast transformation. It took years. But every tear, every setback, and every prayer was worth it. I can look back now and say with full confidence: God’s way was better.
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Who You Surround Yourself With Matters
One of the most important parts of my process was having the right people around me. I had a small circle of godly friends who reminded me of God’s promises when I wanted to give up. They prayed with me, encouraged me, and held me accountable when I was tempted to settle.
Community matters. Make sure you’re surrounded by people who love God, love you, and will remind you of who you are—even when you forget.
God Is Working Even When You Don’t See It
If you feel like you’re in the middle of a long, painful process, I want to encourage you with the story of Joseph in Genesis 37–50. Betrayed by his own brothers, sold into slavery, and imprisoned unjustly, Joseph could have given up. But God never left him. Through every trial, God was positioning Joseph for a future he couldn’t have seen coming.
Later, Joseph says to his brothers in Genesis 50:20:
“But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive.”
God is always working behind the scenes—shaping, preparing, and aligning things for your good. (Romans 8:28)
Final Encouragement
It’s okay to not see all the answers right now. It’s okay to feel uncertain. But don’t give up. Don’t kick down the door. Trust that God knows what He’s doing. Trust the process—even when it’s hard.
Lay down your timeline, your plan, and your idea of how things should unfold. Pick up God’s Word, His promises, and His peace. He’s leading you somewhere beautiful.
You are worth the wait. You are being refined. And when the time is right, you’ll come forth as pure gold.
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